10 Things you should NEVER say to your lover

Sometimes silence is golden, but sometimes there
are things that need to be said. Its best to think
before you speak.
The last thing you’d want is for your partner to
dump you over something you didn’t even mean to
say.
‘Are you really going to walk out dressed like
that?’
If it’s mine then chances are I like it. There’s
already so much pressure for girls to look flawless
and picture perfect.
So, she doesn’t need to be told by you that she’s
not meeting the standards.
She bought that item of clothing because she liked
it- she feels good in it. Unless you have the money
to buy a new wardrobe for her then maybe you
should keep your comments to yourself and love
her for who she is not what she wears.
‘Babe, let’s hit the gym’
This one reminds me of a song by Ruben Studdard
that goes: “Why you wanna change me, flip all the
things that really make me the way that I am…you
used to like your big old teddy bear…”
If you met in the Burger King queue and he/she
told you about their love for junk foods then don’t
expect him/her to become a vegan now that
you’re dating.
You can only bring up the gym idea if you notice
that your partner has gained some weight and it’s
having an impact on their health. And even then,
be tactful about it.
Everyone is insecure about their body image and
the last thing you’d want to do is hurt your lover’s
feelings.
‘If I tell you, you have to promise not to tell
anyone else!’
Nobody likes a Gossiping Gertrude unless of
course Gertrude is your close friend who enjoys
gossip just as much as you do. Don’t fill the
silence with gossip.
If you find that you have nothing to say to each
other maybe you should have a make-out session
or call it a night and go to sleep.
If word gets out and the trail leads back to you
guys, it could get you into serious trouble and may
even hamper your relationship.
‘My ex did the exact same thing’
If you’re looking for an express ticket to Dumpville,
then, yeah, bring up your ex. The only time your
partner wants to hear about your ex is NEVER.
It’s not nice being compared to someone even if
they were a complete douchebag and you’re just
this ball of amazingness.
It shows that you still think about your ex and
maybe aren’t over him/her. Your ex is old news
and it’s time to focus on what’s right in front of
you.
‘This song reminds me of my ex’
Again, ex-stories are a no go area. Think before
you talk, even if it’s something as simple as a
song, movie or a joke. Some things are better left
unsaid.
‘Nothing’s wrong. I’m fine’
Girls are guilty of saying this. We say it but we
don’t mean it. It’s actually our way of saying “my
world is falling apart and I just need you to hold
me and tell me that everything will be fine” or “I’m
so mad at you right now.”
If you’re guilty of doing this - stop it! Your partner
can’t read your mind. In a relationship,
communication is very important.
You need to verbalise your thoughts instead of
harboring them. If you don’t, you might just end
up exploding at your partner and then start
bringing up unattended issues from three years
ago.
If something is bothering you rather deal with it
right there and then.
‘If you really love me…’
A relationship should not have terms and
conditions, that’s what your job is for. If your
partner uses this line to try guilt trip you into
doing something, then please do yourself a favour
and dump that loser.
It is a mild form of manipulation and actually
shows weakness. If you would like your partner to
do something for you just ask them, chances are
they’ll say yes anyways, and if they don’t, you’ll
just have to accept that.
‘Just chill- you’re overreacting’
“Telling a girl to calm down works about as well
as trying to baptize a cat”- @BroCulture (twitter)
In other words, she will not calm down. Girls are
sensitive and take a lot of the things guys say to
heart.
From the guy’s perspective it probably isn’t even
coming from a hurtful place, maybe she is being
over the top and does need to take a chill pill; but
try finding a more diplomatic way of telling her to
calm down.
‘Babe stop being so insecure, he/she is just a
friend’
If your partner voices out their concern about you
spending too much time with a friend of the
opposite sex or being too friendly with them,
respect their worry and maybe cut down just a
little on your over-friendliness.
Your partner will notice and it will mean a lot. So,
instead of being a little insensitive rather reassure
your partner about the true love you have for
them.
‘You’re always too busy for me’
Unless your partner spends 25 hours a day at
work or with his friends or anywhere away from
you, then don’t say this. It comes across as needy
and as if you have nothing going on in your life.
Remember, your partner is an individual, not an
extension of you.